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Ep180. Align Your Heart's and Mind's Desire to Realize Your Most Authentic Life.

• Mike Kitko

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In this episode, we explore the powerful concept of aligning your heart and mind to create the life you truly desire. Misalignment between what your mind thinks you want and what your heart genuinely desires creates internal resistance, making it harder to achieve your goals.

When your heart and mind are fully aligned, you step into a state of clarity, certainty, and commitment, allowing you to take inspired action effortlessly. This alignment eliminates the struggle, enabling you to manifest your desires with ease. Discover how to dissolve the gap between wanting and having and step into your full personal power.

Key Takeaways

  1. Heart-Mind Alignment is Key: True clarity comes from merging what your heart deeply desires with the focus of your mind.
  2. Internal Resistance Blocks Progress: Resistance isn’t external; it arises from misalignment between your mind and heart.
  3. Let Go of Wanting: The state of wanting signals disbelief. Releasing want shifts you into a state of allowing and receiving.
  4. Inspired Action Matters: Taking action from a place of certainty and alignment amplifies your power and eliminates struggle.
  5. Your Inner World Shapes Your Outer World: When your internal state is aligned, your external reality naturally follows.

Notable Quotes

  • “When your heart and mind are in lockstep, the gap between your current circumstances and your desires dissolves.”
  • “As long as you want what you want, you cannot have it. Letting go of want is the key to receiving.”
  • “Resistance is never external. It exists within you, and aligning your heart and mind eliminates it.”
  • “You don’t need massive action to create success. You need inspired action from a place of inner certainty.”
  • “When you achieve alignment, you stop chasing and start allowing.”


Music Credit: "What's Left of Me" by Wes Hoffman & Friends


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Mike Kitko is an executive self-mastery coach, speaker and author. He found external success through powerful titles, incomes, and material possessions. He ultimately fell into depression, toxic abuse of alcohol, and the near collapse of his family before he began a journey of internal happiness and success.

Speaker 1:

Do you ever wake up feeling like there's something missing in your life? Do you ever feel the need to escape your business? Are you running your life or is your life running you? I'm Mike Kitko and I'll help you design and create a life so authentic and aligned with who you really are. You'll get excited just to wake up. I'll help you create real wealth, success and freedom from the inside out. Welcome to the Inner Wealth Podcast, where we learn and choose to live inspired each and every day.

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Last week, I shared some insights about the creation process and the creation process being three C's getting clear about what it is exactly that you're looking to create in your life, attaining a level of certainty, and what that means is letting go of all worry, doubt, fear, lack and even letting go of the idea that you don't have what you want. And the final step is commitment. And there's three parts to the commitment process. It's taking inspired action in the direction of your vision, of your clarity, remaining patient in the process while it materializes. And the last and most important step of the commitment is allowing and opening your heart and opening up your mind and opening up your life to be able to receive, because sometimes what I've noticed is when somebody wants something, they say they want something. When it shows up, sometimes they don't take delivery. And that's the creation process Three C's Clarity, certainty and commitment and I would invite you, if you haven't, go back and listen to it. It's a powerful episode, it's a great episode and it introduces the audience to my Choose your Destiny vision intensive my two-day in-person workshop, where we set about to master, harness and master the creation process clarity, certainty and commitment.

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This week, I want to come at creation and the creation process from a little different angle, and this is why I'm inviting you to go back, listen to it, but I want you to consider also merging it with the concepts that I'm going to share in this episode, because when these two are put together and when you really understand how they work together, it's going to make you way more powerful than than you could ever imagine. All right, and that's really what we're after. We're all after attaining a level, and somebody would say I don't want to be powerful, but it's really about being personally powerful. It's about being clear, being certain, being committed inside, having all the confidence, having all the trust, having all the faith, having all the belief that you need to completely master your life and circumstances, and that is called personal power. When you take what I'm getting ready to share and you couple it with the three C's clarity, certainty and commitment you'll basically be unstoppable. All right, and and this in uh, this weekend's choose your destiny visionensive. I'm going to merge these two so that the audience and so that the students, they really leave the workshop a different person, seeing the world through the eyes of you know, or seeing the world differently, right, and understanding how, where their true potential and where their true purpose and where their true power is in this world.

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Now, years ago, I was sitting out on my back patio with my best friend. His name's Brian Schroeder and if you've listened to this episode, he's been a guest. Before I've interviewed him. I don't think I have very many phone calls where I don't mention his name, and I really admire Brian and I appreciate Brian and he's enriched my life in so many ways, but he is the most powerful creator that I have ever met in my life, and what I mean by that is when Brian gets clear about what he wants, it shows up, and I'm not saying sometimes it shows up, I'm saying when Brian gets clear about what he wants. It shows up and I was talking to his wife, debbie, one time and she basically laughs at it and the fact that when Brian says he's going to experience something, or he's going to do something, or he's going to build something, literally it starts, the process just starts to solidify something. Literally it starts, the process just starts to solidify and and he starts to magnetize it into his life. When he's looking for, you know, uh, an employee in his business or uh, or, or a partner I've watched him do this with partners when he gets really clear about exactly what he wants in his life, it's like it's like magic happens and that's the creation process, that's the power of the creation process, because our, our act of creation in this world is inside of us more than it is outside of us.

Speaker 1:

Okay, and I was sitting out on my uh, my patio with Brian and I was talking about this is years and years ago when I said I wanted to to expand. Uh, my mastermind was relatively small, I think there were 10 or 12 of us or something and I said I want to want it to expand. My mastermind was relatively small, I think there were 10 or 12 of us or something. And I said I want to want it to expand my mastermind. And I think I said the same things for three or four weeks and after a while, you know, of talking about the expanding the mastermind, brian just said Mike, let me ask you a question Do you really want the mastermind to grow? And I said, of course I do. And he said no, listen, do you really really want, like, think deeply, do you really want your mastermind to grow? And I said yes, why do you ask? He says because I don't know if you do, because if you wanted it, it would grow.

Speaker 1:

And in the moment I didn't fully understand. Okay, and then we're talking years ago and I understand these concepts now, but it was such a powerful moment for me, it was such a revealing moment for me. Brian taught me a lot with that simple question Do you really want what you say you want? Because if you really really wanted it, it would become true and it would happen. Now let me break this thing down for you. And there is an element of clarity, certainty and commitment, but there's also something even deeper inside of the level of clarity that we're, after All, right, and I'm going to share what that is when.

Speaker 1:

And the reason this is a thing is because I just received a call today from from one of our students and when I was talking to him I used the same tactic Do you really? He was struggling, he's struggling in his business and I said do you really really want to be successful in this business? And his answer literally was no. The business that he's running right now isn't the business that he wants. There's something different that he wants in his life and he says he's struggling in this business and the reason is because he really doesn't want to be successful in this business, but it's his lifeline right now, it's his income, it's his survival mechanism, so he's trying to force it to grow. He's trying to force it to be successful, even though he really doesn't want it to be, and I hope that makes sense. There's something completely different that he really wants in his life, completely different that he really wants in his life, but he's holding on to this business and struggling with it because he doesn't. He hasn't fully stepped into and allowed himself to fully grasp what he wants in his new life.

Speaker 1:

And I asked him the simple question do you want to be successful? And he said no and I said I'm glad you said that. I said I'm glad you said that and I said here's what I've learned over the years you can have whatever you want in this world and life wants for you, what you want for yourself and anything that you get crystal clear about, anything that you're certain that you can have. You approach it from a place of trust and belief and gratitude, anything that you're committed to, and you just allow the time, you patiently allow the time for life to begin to move the pieces and parts around and you take ownership, take receipt, take delivery when it shows up. Anything you can materialize and you can manifest in this world. And I've seen it over and over and over, not just in my life and my students' lives.

Speaker 1:

But I watch Brian master this and that's why in some of my workshops, when he's in town, he comes in and he basically doubles down and he says look, this stuff works. Just trust, trust Mike, trust the process, listen to what he's teaching. You Practice it and over time, as you practice, it'll get better. On the phone with this, my student today I said listen, here's what I've learned. When you want something and I'm pointing right now, I'm pointing to my temples, okay for anybody listening.

Speaker 1:

When you want it in your heart, then that creates resistance. That creates resistance in you creating what you want. When you want something mentally and you really don't want something in your heart of hearts, you make that process harder than it needs to be. And then when you take action in the external world, that action is either powerless or very limited in its power. And this is why some people say you need to take massive action in the world is because their mind and their hearts aren't aligned. So they need to take massive action to overcome the resistance that's going on inside of them.

Speaker 1:

Now there is no resistance in the world for you to create what you want to create. There's no resistance. The market's not resistive. The economy's not resistive. Politics isn't resistive. There's no resistance in the world. There's no resistance in the universe. The universe is a growth engine. Everything grows, everything evolves, everything flows. Trees get the sunlight and the nutrients that they need. Birds get fed all the time. There's no resistance. All resistance is inside of each individual and when you're not getting what you want the object of your clarity it's because of the internal resistance that's present in you. And this is where we get to take a look at where is the resistance showing up? Now with my student. I was talking to him and you know who you are If you're listening. I know you're listening, but if you're listening to this episode right now, before the workshop, he'll be at the workshop. By the way, he'll be at the workshop.

Speaker 1:

By the way, when you take a look at the mental want and a heart-based want, they look and feel very different. Sometimes a mental want, sometimes a mental desire, is fear-based and it's ego-based. It might be based on insecurity, inadequacy, insignificance. The mind is trying to find a way to stay safe. The mind is trying to find a way to prove itself. The mind is trying to find a way to survive. So it creates this want, this limited belief, this stepping stone, what it views as a stepping stone to what you really want. But it never really lets you just fully immerse yourself and it just keeps putting stepping stones in place. The mind sometimes just creates a want out of survival and out of lack.

Speaker 1:

Now, in your heart of hearts, deep inside of your heart, there is a desire, and sometimes it's four or five levels deep from what you really want and the clarity real clarity is getting super duper clear about exactly what it is that, in your heart of hearts, you are. You are here to achieve, you are here to experience, you are here to, to witness, you are here to have. And when you get super clear in your heart of hearts what it is, then we set about the process of merging the heart and the mind, of balancing the heart and the mind, of connecting the heart and the mind. And once you have connected the want in the heart with the want in the mind, lack goes away, scarcity goes away, doubt goes away, want goes away and it's filled with this state of being and this state of consciousness that it's already yours, it's already a done deal. It puts you in the receptive mode and puts you in a state of allowing the circumstance into your life.

Speaker 1:

But the gap to your desire goes away and you literally embody your circumstances in that moment, when you bridge the heart, the want, the desire deep in your heart, and you bridge the mind and you merge these two and you get them co-operating and your mind is working to move you in the direction and to make choices in the direction that matches your heart, when they're in lockstep, the gap between your current circumstances and your future circumstances, the gap just completely dissolves and it's like you're walking around knowing that it is already true, even though the evidence isn't forthcoming yet. It's not there, it hasn't materialized, but the feeling in your body is like it's already yours, and the lack and the doubt and the desire, the want, goes away when you take action, inspired action, from that place of certainty which is commitment. When you take inspired action based on a foundation of certainty and personal power, then it's not a matter of creating your circumstance, but it's a matter of allowing life to rearrange the circumstances so that you can receive them and so that you can allow them into your life, so that you can take ownership and you can take delivery and you can see the materialization of what it is you want. But as long as what you want isn't showing up, it's because you really don't want them. You really don't want it.

Speaker 1:

There's a disconnect between your mind and your heart and sometimes we have this desire in our heart, like my man did today. You know, we have the desire in the heart but the mind says, hey, that's impossible. Or the mind puts resistance, or the mind puts doubt, the mind puts worry, the mind builds this incredible boundary or this incredible gap between where you are and where you want to go. Where you are and where you want to get to, it puts obstacles and it puts resistance and it puts all kinds of stuff, because there's misalignment between the heart and the mind. But as soon as and this is the mindfulness work that we do, and this is why in Choose your Destiny, vision Intensive, I do I lead meditation and I help you understand how to lessen that gap, how to move that gap, how to dissolve that gap so that your mind and your heart merge and so they align on the object of your desires, the object of your clarity.

Speaker 1:

And when you merge mind and heart, then any action that you take, the action is required, action that you take, the action is required, but the action, which action doesn't matter, and I know that doesn't make sense to the logical mind, but it's almost like God, life universe is just, really just waiting for you to do something, to truly, truly give it the signal that you're ready to receive it. When your mind and your heart are merged, that you take action matters, but the action doesn't matter. When you take inspired action from a place of inner certainty, where your mind and your heart are merged, then the action is going to reap the rewards and the benefits of what you have, because inside of you, the object of your clarity, the object of your desire is already there, it's already created, it's already complete inside of you and the action is simply just materializing the vision, materializing what's inside of you in the external world, and that you take action matters. But the action you take doesn't matter and I can't express. When I first started my coaching business, my first ambition was 10 clients, 10k. And as I became more certain and as I closed the gap and I bridged and harmonized the mind the want in the mind and the want in my heart, as that happened, it's almost like I couldn't take any action and not get some result. But it wasn't always action that made sense, that it would benefit 10 clients, 10k, it was just action. I was just proving to the world, proving to life, proving to the universe that I was ready. I was truly ready and truly committed to receiving what I wanted.

Speaker 1:

There's one more line that I want you to connect with, and this is a big one. As long as you want what you want, you cannot have what you want. The want must go away in order for you to receive. As long as you're in a place of wanting, you are not in a place of receiving. As long as you are in a place of wanting, you are not in a place of receiving. As long as you are in a place of wanting, you are not in a place of allowing, because the want is a sign of disbelief. The want is a sign that signals the universe that you're not ready yet. The want is a signal that you don't believe, that there's doubt, that there's worry, that you feel you don't deserve it, that you haven't earned it, that you haven't done enough. When you want what you want, you cannot have what you want until the want goes away and it's the state of being, of receiving, of already having, of allowing. I'll say that again as long as you want what you want, you cannot have what you want. But as soon as the want goes away, it'll show up.

Speaker 1:

And I've done episodes about letting go and letting go of worry, letting go of doubt, letting go of fear, letting go of the stories, letting go of the lack, letting go of any and all resistance, any and all beliefs, any and all thoughts, any and all emotions that have convinced you or that create this wall, this barrier between you and what you want. Want is just another barrier between you and what you want and want is just another barrier when you let go of want and a lot of people and I remember being one of them feel that if I don't want it, then I won't get it. But in the reality is when you get clear about what you want and you let go of the want and shift into a place of receiving and allowing. That's when you give life, universe, god source, the opportunity to serve you. Guys, if you're not getting what you want, if the needle is not moving, if the object of your vision, if the object of your desire is not materializing in your life, it's because there's a gap between your mind want and your heart want. Go figure out what it is you really want. If it's just a mind want, is it just out of scarcity? Is it just out of insecurity? Is it just out of inadequacy or insignificance? Because the only time that you're going to really get traction, and you're really going to get powerful traction, is when the object in your heart, which is inspired, which is inspiration, when the object in your heart, the inspired object in your heart, is merged and is bridged and is unified with the object, the inspired object in your mind. And that's when you are at your most powerful. That's when you are at your most capable of taking powerful action that moves matter, so that life can deliver what you want.

Speaker 1:

And this goes back to another comment that I, when I was talking to Brian and I, wrote a book that I never published. It's still sitting on my laptop and I don't think I ever will because I'm beyond it at this point. It's a good book, but I am beyond the book that I wrote back then. But when I sent it to him and he said, mike, I love your book, it's great, all great content, all great comments, all great information, he said there's only one problem you focus too heavily on the action and not enough on the inner work to get clear and certain about what it is that you want. And that's where the real gold is.

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Guys, if you're listening to this podcast, it's because you don't want what everybody else wants in this world. You don't want the hustle whore, the hustle whore work. You don't want the grind guru, you don't want to show up and just freaking, serve your life over to a god of grind or hustle and just work yourself to death for the rest of your life. Now I'm not saying that you don't have to take some action. What I'm saying is you don't have to take the obsessive, overcommitted, massive action that is required when you haven't bridged your mind and your heart. You don't want that. If you're listening to this podcast, I know you don't want that. Well, the way through that is to learn the mindfulness work that bridges the heart and the mind, and learning that it's not the action that unlocks the materialization, it's the action that reveals the materialization that already exists. All right, hey, listen this podcast.

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This episode is going to come out on Thursday. The very next day, friday the 10th, is when we start the Choose your Destiny Vision Intensive. So I'm going to once again, I'm going to put the link to the. It's also on the website interwealthglobalcom. You can go in and grab a seat. We've got plenty of seats left. You can go and grab a seat to the vision intensive. It is, uh, just outside of St Louis, in St Charles, missouri, and last year we did a couple, a couple of these. Not sure how many of these we're going to do this year. This might be it. We might do another one later in the uh, in the in the uh early fall. But anyway, if you're interested in joining, if you're interested in jamming, grab a seat and I'll see you there. If you enjoyed what you heard and you want to learn more, go to wwwinnerwealthglobalcom for more tools and resources. You