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Ep187. The Power of Receiving: How You’re Unconsciously Blocking the Wealth and Freedom You Want.

• Mike Kitko

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Many people struggle to receive. Whether it’s wealth, love, success, or support, there’s often an internal block that keeps what they desire just out of reach. In this episode, Mike Kitko explores the connection between mindset, heartset, and the ability to receive fully. He dives deep into why so many feel unworthy, undeserving, or like they have to earn everything before they can have it. True abundance comes when a person aligns their thoughts, beliefs, and emotions with what they want, rather than unconsciously repelling it. If you’ve ever felt uncomfortable accepting help, opportunities, or even compliments, this episode will challenge you to open your heart and finally allow in what you’ve been waiting for.

Key Takeaways

  • Mindset and heartset work together—thoughts and beliefs direct what you create, while emotions determine what you attract.
  • Most people unconsciously block receiving because they don’t feel worthy, significant, or capable of holding what they desire.
  • It’s not better to give than to receive—giving and receiving are equally important, and resistance to receiving is resistance to abundance.
  • Struggle, over-effort, and constantly trying to prove yourself keep you from allowing what you want to flow in effortlessly.
  • The gap between what you want and what you have is created by your own perception of what you deserve and are ready for.

Notable Quotes

  • “If you don’t feel worthy of wealth, love, or success, you will unconsciously block it—even when it’s right in front of you.”
  • “Your thoughts and beliefs are the prayers for what you want, but your emotions are the magnet that draws it in.”
  • “The discomfort you feel when someone gives you something is the exact thing that’s keeping you from receiving at higher levels.”
  • “You don’t take action to create—creation happens when you get clear. You take action to receive.”
  • “You don’t have to earn, prove, or struggle to deserve more. You just have to open yourself to receive it.”


Music Credit: "What's Left of Me" by Wes Hoffman & Friends


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Do you ever wake up feeling like there's something missing in your life? Do you ever feel the need to escape your business? Are you running your life or is your life running you? I'm Mike Kitko and I'll help you design and create a life so authentic and aligned with who you really are that you'll get excited just to wake up. I'll help you create real wealth, success and freedom from the inside out. Welcome to the Inner Wealth Podcast, where we learn and choose to live inspired each and every day.

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This weekend, we held and finished up another Choose your Destiny live intensive workshop. And listen. Those workshops are extremely, extremely powerful and the work that we do is deep, it's meaningful, it's useful and helpful. This isn't a session where we do what most workshops do, where it's just, you know, it's just surface level stuff and it's about tactics and it's about strategies. These workshops aren't.

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The Choose your Destiny Live Intensive is very deep and we do some profound, deep digging and healing work from an energetic perspective, an energetic level. At the energetic level, it's very. There's a lot of tears, there's a lot of laughter, there's a lot of freedom, there's a lot of laughter, there's a lot of. There's a lot of freedom, like when, when you walk in the first day there's a feeling of of a little heavier energy. Most people don't know what they're stepping into. Most people have followed me for a while so they know some of my musings, but they don't fully understand the work that we do in these workshops and I lead meditation and I do some one-on-one work with people from a mindset and a heart set perspective. I work with people directly. There's every once in a while, you know, an ad hoc hot seat will come up where the room focuses on one individual, but you never know where we're going to go. I've got a little bit of a structure and a little bit of a framework, but these things are super powerful and they're super liberating.

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So you come in the first day that the energy is a little dense. People go home a little tired the first day, but the second morning when you come in, there's a lighter energy and people are smiling and people are happy and people are laughing and they've released some of the emotional baggage and some of the worry, doubt, fear, shame, guilt, some of the deep stuff that they've carried around for a long time. They let it go the first day and they come in and it's like, energetically, they're a different person. By the end of the second day they've lightened the load quite a bit and oftentimes I'll get messages afterwards that, holy cow, I slept like a baby for the next couple of days.

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Because we carry a lot, a lot, a lot of emotional baggage. When it's unchecked, when we don't dive in, we carry a lot of energetic pain in our body like stress and struggle and pain from our childhood and from adulthood and our lower level beliefs and our lower level thoughts and our lower level emotions. We carry them around like they're part of our identity. But when we really start to loosen them up and let them go, we literally become a different human being. And that's what the Choose your Destiny, live intensive workshop does, because what happens is you plot a course for your life. We have a vision for where you have a vision for where you want your life to go, and if you don't, I would suggest you develop one. But we develop a vision for where we want to go and some people are built now to accomplish that vision and some people have some internal conflicts, some worry, doubt, fear, this lack of self-trust, lack of belief in themselves. They're carrying around all of this deep mental and emotional baggage and garbage that's keeping them from fully tapping into their full power and their full potential. So in this workshop, we not only start to scratch the surface on what you really want in life. I teach you how to let go of what's no longer serving you, from a belief, from a thought, from an emotional perspective, and as we let that go, we become more capable and more powerful of creating any vision and anything we want in life, and we become capable of getting and receiving anything that we want in life.

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This weekend was a very, very powerful session. In fact it was one of our most powerful, and we're going to do more of these. The next one's going to be in August and I'll put the link to the session in the new link to the session in the show notes. But we're doing the next one on August 23rd or 22nd and 23rd in St Louis, missouri. Same format, same place. It's just going to be awesome. It's a great container. If you're interested, tap that button and meet me in St Louis. Ah, it's a movie, but anyway, listen, here's one of the things that started coming up before the workshop, and the workshop really, really amplified it right.

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So we talk about mindset and some of this, some of this work is, is mindset and what what that means is. It's creating a more powerful mind and more empowering beliefs and more powerful and empowering thoughts, so that our mind is pointed towards an an an alignment with what we want instead of what we don't want. If you really pay attention to most of this world, most people are living in a deep state with a deep sense of worry, doubt and fear that they won't have what they need and they can't trust themselves and they can't trust life. They're living through insecurity and inadequacy and insignificance. And these thoughts and these beliefs that create these states of insecurity, inadequacy and insignificance, and these thoughts and these beliefs that create these states of insecurity, inadequacy and insignificance, these are just disempowered beliefs and disempowered thoughts. And creating a more powerful and empowering mind means shifting those beliefs, means shifting those habitual thoughts, those routine thoughts, and getting really clear about what you want, but focusing your mind to be disciplined on paying attention and being laser focused on what you want instead of what you don't want.

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I get hired for speaking engagements. I get invited to speaking engagements to talk about mindset, specifically money mindset. Everybody thinks that money is going to solve all their problems in the world. So everybody thinks most people, not everybody. Most people think that as soon as they have all the money they need, all their problems will go away and money just amplifies whoever you are. And if you're holding money, fear. Having a lot of money just amplifies the money fear. And if you feel inadequate when you have a lot of money, you'll feel inadequate. With a lot of money just amplifies the money fear. And if you feel inadequate when you have a lot of money, you'll feel inadequate with a lot of money just amplified. So the goal is not just to get money. I love money, money loves me but the goal isn't just to create higher levels of wealth and more zeros and more commas. It's to resolve and to dissolve and to heal and to let go and to reframe the beliefs and the thoughts of insecurity, fear of loss, inadequacy, the fear that I'm not enough or I'm not good enough, and any stories of insignificance that you don't matter.

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And these are the three voices and we talked about them in last week's episode and many other times before. These are the three voices of survival mode and most of the world. If you look, if you really pay attention, most of the world is just surviving day by day, week by week, month by month, and there's a few that have shifted into creation mode. And creation mode is where you're living through the inspiration that's inside of you, in your thoughts, in your beliefs and in your body and that creates margin in the world. But most people think that as soon as they have financial margin, all their problems will go away. And it's not that money is not important. It's money is not the elixir for every single problem and every symptom that you have.

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But when we create a more empowered mindset and we get laser focused, we get those thoughts and those beliefs pointed on what we want instead of what we don't want. We have an easier time, a more effortless time, in creating what it is what we want instead of what we don't want. We have an easier time, a more effortless time, in creating what it is that we want and living an inspired life. So we all get mindset, we all understand mindset. But there's another level to this and this is something that started showing up before the workshop, but it really.

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When I dove into this during the workshop, it really caught people's attention and there were literally tears over this concept and that is the concept of heartset. Now, if you've never heard that word, then don't be surprised, because it's not something that's thrown around a lot. It's not something that's thrown around a lot. It's not something that's widely understood. It's not something that's really understood by many people, so they don't understand the importance. But heartset in some cases is even more important than mindset. But nobody wants to talk about feelings, and that's really what Heartset is all about. It's about emotions and it's about feelings. And we're taught to not talk about our feelings and not talk about our emotions. And most people are just keeping their feelings and their emotions to themselves. And this isn't about just sharing your misery with everybody else so that everybody's miserable misery with everybody else so that everybody's miserable. This is just understanding the feelings and understanding the emotions that are in your heart, that are in your body, because when we understand that, we have a better chance and we will create whatever it is you want.

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So I'm not a religious man. I don't believe in the puppet master God. I don't believe in, as my wife calls him, sky Daddy. I don't believe in that God. But I believe that there is some magical, mystical, amazing, supportive, loving, encouraging force in the world that wants to see us win and doesn't make us win or doesn't make us lose, doesn't answer some prayers and not answer others. It's just there, waiting for us to kind of exert some free will, find our divinity, find our personal power, empower our minds, empower our bodies and accomplish and create and accumulate whatever it is our hearts desire. And this magical, mystical force is our greatest cheerleader and it's supportive as fuck. And this force has given us everything. Our creator has given us everything we need to be successful. And our prayers, our thoughts and our beliefs are the prayers for what you want, and they're directed at God. But God is all things what you can see and what you can't see. It's what you know and what you don't know. It's the matter and the space between the matter, it's the energy that's all around us. That's God. There's nothing that isn't God. But God's just waiting for us to put in our order and our prayers, our beliefs and our thoughts. That's how we give our order to the world, to life, to the universe, to our creator.

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And when we drop down 16 to 18 inches into our heart, the emotions and what's happening in our heart and in our body, that's how we magnetize things circumstances, people, money, success, clients to our lives. That's how we magnetize, but we can also magnetize poverty. We can also magnetize failure. We can also magnetize people to abuse us. We can also magnetize people that manipulate us. We can also magnetize people that hurt us. Because whatever emotions are in your body and in your heart is what you're bringing, carrying forward and bringing to you, where the beliefs and the thoughts are, the prayers, the emotions in your body are the magnet. That's your attraction field and we talk about the power of mindset, but we don't understand the power of heartset, because if you don't feel worthy, if you don't feel valuable, if you don't feel like you deserve something, if you don't feel like you earn something, if you don't feel significant, if you don't feel adequate, if you don't feel secure, you are literally attracting things to show you what you're feeling. At the level of what you're feeling, your emotions are your magnet and there's an amazing book by Neville Goddard called Feeling is the Secret. There are so many books about the power of our emotions and the power of our feelings and this is really really critical, really important stuff.

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In the workshop I shared, I asked a simple question. I said is it better to give or receive, receive and like the programmed in condition people that you know we typically are when we're not paying attention and we're not conscious. Most people answered it's better to give and I called them on their bullshit. I said no, that's why, that's why you are struggling, or that's why you have struggled to create what it is that you want and to receive what you want in the world because you're too focused on giving. And it really is a trick question Is it better to give or receive? Trick question they're equal. We must be willing to give and receive and if we can't easily and effortlessly receive and if we can't easily and effortlessly receive, then we are literally not taking receipt of what it is we say we want. And if your emotions are screaming I am not worthy, I am an imposter, I don't deserve it, I haven't earned it, I'm not good enough, then you are literally magnetizing circumstances, people, things to you that are at the level and at the frequency of those emotions. And if they're disempowered emotions, you are attracting disempowered things. And this is how somebody feels like they are a victim is because inside they've got this victim story and they they attract things into their life to amplify and to show the person, the evidence of that, those feelings of being a victim. When someone is a winner and they feel like a winner, they attract circumstances and people into their lives to amplify and support and to show them match their feelings of being a winner.

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I've got a private client. He wins in every aspect of his life and the dude is he's got a powerful mindset, he's got a powerful heart set, he's had an amazing empowering environment that he grew up in, that he was nurtured in. And when I sit down with him and I say, hey, how does it feel to win in every aspect of your life? He said that's what I do, mike. I'm a winner Because that's how he's built. That's how he's built. And you might ask well, mike, why is he working with you if he already feels that? That's because he's at a 99.1 and he's looking to go to a 99.2. And he's a winner. So he believes he deserves that and he believes he's worth it and he believes that he's worth investing in, deserves that and he believes he's worth it and he believes that he's worth investing in.

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Guys, your heart set, the emotions that are present in your heart, are determining on a daily basis, whether you know it or not what is showing up in your life. If you don't feel like you deserve wealth, you won't create wealth. If you don't feel like you've earned wealth, you won't get it. If you don't feel like you are worthy of love, you won't receive it. If you don't feel like you are adequate or significant enough for the universe, for God, for life, for people to support you and encourage you and inspire you and aid you in creating and accomplishing what you want, if you don't feel adequate or significant enough for that to happen, then it won't, because what you feel is what you are attracting. Okay, it's not better to give than it is to receive, but to receive, your heart must be open to receive. You must feel as if you've already earned it. You must feel like you already deserve it. You must feel like a winner To get what you want. You must feel powerful, you must feel adequate, you must feel significant. And when you feel these things, you will attract these things into your life, circumstances and people, things that reinforce that, aid and support these emotions that are in your body. Because your emotions are your magnet, they are your attractor field and the frequency of your emotions determines the frequency of the things that you bring into your life Now.

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In this workshop, in the Choose your Destiny Live Intensive, I ask people to check in with themselves what are your dreams and do you feel like you have already earned those dreams? Do you feel like you deserve those dreams? Do you feel like you have that you are adequate enough or significant enough to achieve and accomplish and bring that stuff into your life? And a few of the people few of the students in there with watery eyes said they always feel like they still have work left to do to earn or deserve it and they never seem to close that gap and that's why they struggle so much to bring a higher level of circumstance in their life is because they're too busy trying to earn it and too busy trying to deserve it. And when they don't feel like they've earned it and they don't feel like they deserve it, then life brings them the frequency of not having those circumstances fulfilled. Circumstances fulfilled and your thoughts and your beliefs are your prayer and you can give that order to life. But if you're not willing, if you have not opened your heart to receiving now, not later, after you've earned it now, not after you deserve it now, not when you take action now, then then you still believe that there's more work to be done, and it's likely that the work will never be done enough, or you have done enough to feel like you've earned it or deserve it. So it'll. All your circumstances will just stay away from you because you're too busy trying to earn it, you're too busy trying to deserve it. You're too busy trying to close that gap. You're too busy trying to deserve it. You're too busy trying to close that gap and you're the one creating that gap, and you can close that gap whenever you want by opening your heart to receiving right now. I want you to think about this as we close out this episode. I want you to think about this If somebody gives you a compliment, does it make you feel like all uncomfortable inside?

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When somebody tries to help you, does it make you feel all uncomfortable inside, all gooey, all resistive when you think about asking for help? Does it turn your insides, make you feel like a burden, or make you feel like you're putting your problems on somebody else? When somebody wants to give you something for no reason, do you suddenly feel like you need to earn it or that you don't deserve it? Are you fighting to try to figure out how to give them something before you receive it. When somebody wants to pay you and they actually want to deliver your worth, your value, above what you deem your value is, does it make you feel like an imposter? Does it make you feel like a fraud? Do you have any sense of imposter syndrome or feel like a fraud?

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Because all of these things, any of this discomfort and internal conflict about bringing something into your life and receiving it now, any place that there's a gap between what you want and what you feel like you deserve and earn and what you'll receive right now, any gap is showing you that you have not opened your heart to receive and you are not yet ready to receive. And as soon as you close your heart, you will receive, because your emotions draw and attract what shows up in your life. Your beliefs and your thoughts are the prayers. Your emotions are your tractor beam. Brings it to you Mindset, empowered beliefs and empowered thoughts, heartset, an empowered heart that's wide, open and ready to receive whatever it is that you want right now. And you take action to receive, not to create. Action is a receiving activity, not a creation activity. You create when you're clear. You receive by taking action, and it doesn't need to be strugglicious, stressful, chaotic, overly ambitious action, because if that's the case, then you're not ready to receive yet. Get clear about what you want. Let go of any worry, doubt, fear that you can't have it. Build up a healthy level of trust in yourself and in life, god, universe, and then be willing to receive. Spend more time opening up your heart to be willing to receive, so that when you do take action and move forward, you're doing this in the receptive mode, not to see if you can create it, but to receive.

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Guys, the next Choose your Destiny Live Intensive is August 22nd and 23rd in St Louis, missouri. I'll drop the link in here. I've got a couple of virtual containers that I'm going to be launching in over the next couple months. In April we're going to have a winning the inner game of wealth virtual container. So I got a lot of cool stuff coming up and I want to do a deeper level of work with you. I want to. I want to work with people that are excited to work with me. So don't just stop at this podcast. Come and get some of this. I'll give you some goodness. I'll pour into you, I'll give you some knowledge, some wisdom, some tools, some techniques and, most of all, I will help you believe in yourself and your ability to create anything you want in this world. Love you, guys, and I'll see you next week. And I'll see you next week. If you enjoyed what you heard and you want to learn more, go to wwwinnerwealthglobalcom for more tools and resources.