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Ep210. You Can’t Have What You Want — But You Can Have What Your Heart Desires.

• Mike Kitko

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In this episode, Mike offers a bold reframe of one of his most-repeated teachings: “You can have anything you want.” From a resort patio in Cabo to deep downloads in the body, Mike shares how that phrase has evolved into something truer, deeper, and more soul-aligned: “You can have anything your heart desires.” This episode breaks down the three-step creation process — clarity of vision, certainty of heart, and commitment to receive — and invites listeners to stop hustling for their desires and start embodying them.

Key Takeaways

  1. You Can’t Have Whatever You Want — But You Can Have What Your Heart Desires
    “Want” is a mental construct. Desire is a divine imprint. The difference changes everything.
  2. The Creation Process is Energetic, Not Just Strategic
    You don’t manifest through hustle — you align through clarity, certainty, and surrender.
  3. Clarity of Vision Starts in the Mind
    You have to see your desired outcome clearly before it can materialize.
  4. Certainty of Heart Unlocks the Body
    Real power isn’t mindset — it’s heartset. Your body must believe it’s already yours.
  5. Commitment to Receive Is the Final Step
    Stay in the energy. Keep showing up. Let life rearrange itself to match your embodiment.

Notable Quotes

  • “You can have anything your heart desires — but you can’t have anything you want.”
  • “Struggle is effort fueled by negative emotion.”
  • “Certainty of heart is the emotional fuel that tells you it’s already a done deal.”
  • “You’re not creating it — you’re receiving it.”
  • “This isn’t effort to see if you can create it. It’s effort to experience what’s already yours.”

Call to Action

If you’re tired of forcing things to happen through effort, stress, and overthinking…
 And you’re ready to embody what your soul already knows is yours…
This episode is your reminder: It’s not an if — it’s a when.

🔥 Pre-order Inner World, Outer World, releasing on August 19th — Mike’s 53rd birthday and his most powerful work yet.
🔥 Join us for the Book Launch + Birthday Party in O'Fallon, MO — August 19th, 3–6PM.
🔥 Keep showing up in clarity, certainty, and commitment to receive.

Everything your heart desires is already waiting for you to receive it.

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Mike Kitko is an executive self-mastery coach, speaker and author. He found external success through powerful titles, incomes, and material possessions. He ultimately fell into depression, toxic abuse of alcohol, and the near collapse of his family before he began a journey of internal happiness and success.

Speaker 1:

Do you ever wake up feeling like there's something missing in your life? Do you ever feel the need to escape your business? Are you running your life or is your life running you? I'm Mike Kitko and I'll help you design and create a life so authentic and aligned with who you really are that you'll get excited just to wake up. I'll help you create real wealth, success and freedom from the inside out. Welcome to the Inner Wealth Podcast, where we learn and choose to live inspired each and every day.

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I've got a little bit of a different take on some of the things that I've taught or shared on this podcast. I've taught or shared on this podcast. Now there's there've been podcast after podcast after podcast episode on the inner wealth podcast where I said you can have anything you want in this world and you know what? I've got a reframe. I lied that's not true. You can't have anything you want. You can have anything that your heart desires, but you can't have anything you want. In this episode. I want to take some time to reframe from having anything you want to having what your heart desires, and I want to help you understand how true that is. And and then you know the process, I guess for having that come to fruition.

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And this is these are recent, uh revelations for me, recent things that I've I've been unpacking and and diving into. And we were in Cabo. My wife and I were were in Cabo last last week and wife and I were were in Cabo last last week. And and when I'm, when I'm just like kind of hanging out and I hang out a lot I contemplate life, I contemplate experience. You know the experience of life, I it's like I um with existential, I have existential thoughts. It's like, what is this existence about? What is life about? What's the purpose, how do we navigate this life? I get very philosophical and I get very deep and that's the kind of the contemplation that lights my soul on fire. I love that level of contemplation. And then what I do is I have all these creative outlets and you know I had the inner wealth podcast and I have a new book coming out, uh, on August 19th. Uh, it's called inner world, outer world. I have a blog. I have, you know, I have a mastermind where, in a, in a uh, the inner wealth community, where I share all of these insights, all these philosophies, all this creative energy flowing through me. It's like, I know I'm a spiritual teacher and some of these podcast episodes get quite mystical and they get quite woo, and I love that. It's just the way I'm wired, it's the way I'm built and I love sharing what comes up for me.

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But when I was sitting around Cabo and Angie and I we were at a beautiful resort and we're sitting on the patio or we're sitting by the beach or we're sitting by the pool and it's like my mind goes deep inside and very reflective and very contemplative about what does this all mean and how do we navigate this thing at a higher level and how do we increase our quality of life and how do we get more out of life and how do we get more out of life. And this is what popped up. You can have anything your heart's desire, anything your heart desires, but you can't have anything you want. There's a big difference. On a lot of episodes I've shared the creative process, the creation process, and that's it's very simple. There's it's simple, not easy. There's there's a three. There's three steps to the creative process and the creation process in this world, and I've shared clarity, certainty and commitment. All right, if you can go back and listen to many, many episodes where I share the same thing.

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If you, you know some of my favorite books in the world and I have them all right here. If you're watching one video, you see me pointing to books I call my secret seven. The secrets of the millionaire mind. Think and grow rich. The science of getting rich as a, as a man thinketh. Um, the strangest secret be your future self Now, uh, they all break into habit of being yourself. By Dr Joe Dispenza. All these books say the same thing differently, and when I study these books I don't read them. But when I studied them and I started to see the similarities and the commonalities between all these different, completely different teachers and people, you know these authors, these best-selling authors and these spiritual teachers and these amazing, amazing, like servants that put these great books out in the world, when I studied them, I saw that they all said the same thing.

Speaker 1:

There's three steps to the creative process, the creation process, and that's clarity, certainty and commitment. Get really, really clear about what you want, which is what I used to teach. Get certain, let go of all the worry, doubt and fear that's inside of you. Certainty and then take inspired action. Be patient in the process and then, when it shows up, take receipt. Now, this is the way I used to share it, okay, but I'm going to. I'm going to slightly revise it.

Speaker 1:

The creation process definitely contains clarity, certainty and commitment, but the new, the new found resolution to this thing that I've developed is clarity, is clarity of vision. It's very much a mental framework. Getting clear about this vision that you have in your life is a mental construct, and until you're clear about what it is that you're looking to create, until you're clear about what it is you're looking to experience, then it's going to remain elusive, because the number one reason people don't have their vision is because they don't have a vision. And I would say it, you know, the reason that people don't have what they want is because they don't know what they want, and that's very much a mental construct, and that's very much a mental construct. The first step in the creation process is clarity of vision. Get clear about what it is you're looking to create and experience in this world. The second step and I would say it normally, and I probably still will in the future, but for the sake of this episode is get certain in your body and it's, you know, one of the reasons people don't have this thing that they vision is in some cases.

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The second most powerful reason is because they don't feel it's available to them. They're filled with worry, they're filled with doubt, they're filled with fear, they're filled with all these things, and this is all what I like to refer to as uncertainty. They've got all these mixed signals that are going through their body, all these emotions that are going through that are telling them that they can't have it, it's not available, they're not good enough, they're not talented enough, and this is all like central nervous system stuff. Your body contains samskaras, and it's all of these worries, doubts and fears that are derived from your samskaras, from all the pain and all the trauma and all the past experiences, that get in the way. They're like stray arrows inside of you and they show up to convince you that you can't have it or that you won't have it or you're not good enough, and I like to call this uncertainty.

Speaker 1:

So the second step is to become certain that you can have anything you want. The new way that I want to reframe that is certainty of heart. So this certainty is not just mental certainty, it's emotional certainty, it's that feeling like you already have it In all these books. I'm pointing to them on the video. You can see it on the audio? You can't, obviously. You can see it on the audio. You can't, obviously.

Speaker 1:

But you, you've got this feeling that you already have it, that it's fully available. Your emotions are telling you that no, no, not only is it available, that it's, it's not an if, it's a when, and that, as long as you remain committed that you will experience this thing. That is your vision, that this vision is inside of you and it's just a matter of experiencing the vision that's inside of you in the external world. But clarity of vision gives you the picture of what it is you're looking to create, of what it is you're looking to create. And certainty of heart is the emotional fuel that tells you that it's already a done deal and you just have to go out and maybe take some inspired action to receive exactly what you want. And that's the last step. It's commitment to receive, it's continuing to stay in the game, continuing to take inspired action, continuing to be patient, continuing to allow life to rearrange itself so that you can experience anything you want. Clarity of vision is the first step. Certainty of heart, which is very much a body feeling very much, a body state, and then commitment to receive is your gift Once you are clear of vision and you have certainty of heart.

Speaker 1:

Now let's get back to how I started off. You can't have whatever you want, and I'm I'm saying this tongue in cheek, I hope you get this. You can't have whatever you want, because in a lot of cases that's just a mental construct. But you can have your heart's desire, and here's what I mean by that when your mind is clear about the vision that you're looking to create and your heart is certain that you can create an experience, whatever it is that you want. When your mind and your heart, mind and body are working together, then you can have anything your heart desires. Your mind and your heart must be working together in lockstep, synced in a singular direction. And as you move forward in that singular direction it's not an if, it's a when you receive and you will receive. This is the process that I've used to transform my entire life, to move from and shift from a corporate executive that was freaking, absolutely depleted, to an entrepreneur, to a steward, to a spiritual teacher, to having 210 episodes on a podcast, to being a multi-time author, to having a mastermind to speaking to large audiences. This was just continuing to get clear about this vision that I had in my mind. Let go of the worry, doubt and fear to attain a level of certainty of heart, this body yes, that says not if I will have it, but when and then remain committed to it while life rearranges itself and helps bring things, these opportunities, that will continue to be breadcrumbs and leave a breadcrumb trail so that you can eventually receive exactly what you want.

Speaker 1:

The problem that I see in a lot, of, a lot of teachings is, in a lot of cases people are talking about mindset and the power of mindset. And mindset is powerful, don't get me wrong. Mindset is powerful, but it's heart set, it's certainty of heart that locks somebody in to their vision and creating their vision. And sometimes we lose sight of this. You've got hustle and grind teachers that are telling you that somebody's riddled with doubt, riddled with fear, somebody's not really clear about what they're looking to create, and they're like just work harder, just work harder, just more effort, more effort, more effort. But there's a difference between effort and struggle, and effort's required, inspired action, of course, but if someone's not clear, doesn't have clarity of vision, and someone's not certain in their heart, certain in their body, then that effort is actually struggle, Because struggle is effort laced with and fueled by negative emotion, and some of this emotion is probably fear and anxiety and scarcity and just fear of being bankrupt or fear of failing, and all this negative riddled emotion that moves, that turns effort into struggle. And in this process, this creation process of clarity of vision, of certainty of heart, commitment to receive it doesn't, it doesn't absolve someone of effort, but what it does is it makes that effort inspired effort, energized effort, passionate effort, confident effort, certain effort, committed effort. Not just effort to see if you can create your vision, but effort to see your vision come to reality and realization.

Speaker 1:

These seven books and I'm pointing to them again, if you can see it, if you can't see it, you can hear it these seven books all say the same thing and in my opinion and from my perspective when I read them, none of them say you need to lose yourself in the process. None of them say you need to exert, overexert yourself. None of them say you need to stress yourself out. None of them say that you need to break yourself. None of them say that you need to sacrifice in one area of your life in order to achieve in another area of your life in order to achieve in another. None of them say that you need to feel all this negative emotion and be fueled by negativity on the path to realizing the dream that's inside of you, but they all do say in some way, shape or form, that the way to create and recognize your heart's desire is clarity of vision, certainty of heart and a commitment to receive.

Speaker 1:

Now I've been working on something lately and my new book, inner World Outer World, comes out on August 19th. It also just happens to be my birthday and I was sitting outside when I released my first book, the Impostor in Charge. I have never, after I edited that thing for the last time and sent it to the publisher after that last edit, I have never, ever read that book and I have never once recommended somebody to read it. I may have informed people that I had a book the Impostor in Charge and there's probably some. I know there's some goodness in there, but it wasn't the book that I wanted to write. It's the book that I thought I needed to write. It wasn't the book that was inspired in me, it was the book that was kind of coming from a little place of scarcity, looking to grow the business through more of what I felt I could label as a marketing book at this point. It was designed to try to increase income and that's why I just wasn't fueled by it.

Speaker 1:

But inner world, outer world holy crap, holy crap, am I like I'm fueled by it? And it's been three months since I've read it, since I've listened to it, and I actually, like I said with the imposter in charge, after I sent it to the editor, I never really read it again, maybe opened it up and scanned a paragraph, but I've never really read it, never really connected to it. But this morning there's an app called Speechify and I'm not a spokesperson for Speechify, but it's something I use because I'd rather listen to the things than read. But I threw the PDF of inner world outer world through Speechify to listen to it and I'm sitting on my patio and I'm listening to this book and I'm listening to, I'm listening to my book, be you know, be regurgitated to me and being read to me like, like I, like it was somebody else's book.

Speaker 1:

And all I can say is I was absolutely flabbergasted by the quality of work that's contained within this book and my whole freaking body started getting inspired and I started. I messaged a couple people and I talked to Angie, my wife Angie, and I told her. I said this is the book, like if I would have read this book. If I would have read this book, if I would have listened to this book and it was written by another person, it would have been in my top three to top five. That's how good I feel that inner world, outer world is. That is the quality of impact that I feel inner world, outer world will have in the world. That I feel inner world, outer world will have in the world, and the clarity of vision that I have with inner world, outer world is this book becomes a I don't know a calling card, a flagship for me and my teachings and for Inner Wealth Global, and that it creates awareness in the world of spiritual teachings that change people's lives.

Speaker 1:

And when I got this clarity about how much impact, this clarity of vision, how much impact this book can have, and I started seeing myself like playing with you know, as a bigger, significant, more meaningful teacher in this world to move the needle, I started feeling the certainty inside of my body, I started feeling, certainty of heart that this thing not only might it have a powerful impact, but that it will have a powerful impact. So, clarity of vision, I get it. I got it, I see it clearly, the impact that it's meant to have, and I feel it in my body. I'm inspired by this book as I read it and as the words wash over me as I listen to it, as I absorb it, I can feel the energy, I can feel the inspiration, I can feel the certainty build and now it's just a matter of the commitment to receive and I'm here for it.

Speaker 1:

This is the same exact state I was in when I started my business and my vision was smaller 10 clients, $10,000 a month, recurring revenue. When I started this coaching business, that was my only, only goal, my only vision 10 clients, $10,000 by using the same process. I didn't have it defined like back then, like I do now, but clarity of vision, certainty of heart, commitment to receive. It wasn't an if, it was a when of heart. Commitment to receive. It wasn't an if, it was a when. But the main part of this is to know that you can't just have what you want if it's just a mental abstraction, but when that thing becomes certain in your heart, you will have your heart's desire. And it's not an if, it's a when. If you remain committed to receive and you stay in that place of clarity and certainty. It's not an if, it's a when.

Speaker 1:

Now listen, I'm gonna do a lot more promotion for inner world, outer world, because I really do believe in this book and I do believe in this work and in some cases, when I was listening to it, I couldn't believe that that work came out of me. But it came through me, not just out of me. That book, the most notable authors that I study and the most notable books, they say that work didn't come from them, it came through them, it was inspired, it was channeled, it was divine. And I really feel that about inner world, outer world, guys, I'm going to promote it more because I believe in it. I would encourage you if you listen to this, you can, on August 19th, you can connect to the book, order it. It'll be available on amazoncom, it'll be available on Amazon worldwide. It'll also be available, you know, through other outlets. But connect with Amazon.

Speaker 1:

I've got a book launch party coming up and we're going to, we're going to celebrate. You know, I'll put the. I'll put the invite, I'll put the connection in in the show notes. It's on August 19th, 3 to 6 PM, central time. In O'Fallon, missouri it's my current hometown, my current home location. We're having an open house. Come celebrate not just the launch of Inner World, outer World, but it's also my birthday. Come celebrate my 53rd birthday and it'll be a big day because this book is already. I've already gotten more positive feedback about this book than any time I received any feedback I received about the Impostor in Charge or any of my other works.

Speaker 1:

I believe in this. In this book. It's going to have an impact and a ripple effect in this world and I'm excited for you to experience it. In the meantime, I've got lots of other podcast episodes about some of this creation process, other podcasts about the you know, other ones about certainty. But man, the creation process is real and it will move the needle and it works if you allow that clarity of vision, the certainty of heart and the commitment to receive to really, really take over and for you to not only dream about your vision but to embody your vision, because that's what certainty of heart is. It's when you embody your vision and that's when it turns from an if to a when, because you're ready to receive. You don't see if you can receive, you do receive. And with inner world, outer world, I'll tell you right now. I'm committed, I will receive. If you enjoyed what you heard and you want to learn more, go to wwwinnerwealthglobalcom for more tools and resources. Sources.